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Etiquette Passage to Art of Motherhood
Motherhood is an “Art”, it is not just a
profession.
Definition of a Mother
• Mother is her child’s gate to life
• Mother is where action talks not intentions
• Mother is a walking encyclopedia in spite of illiteracy;
sometimes
• Mother is a model role
• Mother is the source of security and life information
• Mother is the mother land to her child
• Mother is a learning process and phenomena
• Mother is an incubator to her child’s skills
• Mother is her child’s life experience
• Mother is her child’s pre-scenario
• Mother is her child’s past, current step and future
landscape
• Mother is her child’s fairy tale
• Mother is her child’s day dream or night mare
• Mother is three in one, soul, mind and body
• Mother is a yesterday, for the child of today, and grandma
of tomorrow
• Mother is an archive for ethics and values
• Mother is a recorded message and a historical video tape
• Mother is her child’s gate to heaven or hell
• Mother is her child’s Bible
• Mother is her child’s incredible woman
How to be an Effective Mother
• Believe that your child is not a personal property but
just and expansion
• Recognize and make a moment of discovery to your weakness
and drew backs, and work on developing and bettering your
self, before bringing up your child
• Learn to bring up your self first and then comes your
child’s turn
• Respect your parents, if you want you child to respect you
• Compose your manners, as your child to be composed
• Do not criticize your child in public and respect his
humanity
• Do not give a bad mouthing about others, in front of your
child, as he is always in a monkey stage
• When you reprimand your child, when reprimand is over; it
is over; do not pile up or make him a mistake achieve
• If you punish or award your child, it has to be relevant
to his actions
• Before being a fisher of mistakes, to your child, you have
to fish him doing something right, for mutual trust and
understanding
• Keep confidentiality of your child and never speak it out
to ancestors or relatives
• Do not compare your child, to another, even his brothers
or sisters
• Keep with your child quality time, not just quantity
• With your child, do not blame, nor compare or demonstrate
authority
• Give him a space to share and participate
• Deal with your child as a good conductor to positive and
negative waves
• Show love to your husband, in front of your child, as to
register themes and scenes of love, this is an in put, and
will be an out coming one day
• Inherit your child, reputation and credibility not only
money
• Delegate your child responsibilities, as to work on
developing his maturity instinct
• Keep rapport with God, as your child, will keep this holly
rapport after then
Stages and Roles of Motherhood
• First Stage is the first seven year, where a mother is to
be and ideal role model, it is where mothers, are to bring
up themselves, before bringing up their kids. Kids in this
stage do just copy and imitate. During this stage never
blame, criticize, reprimand or correct your child, because
he is a photo copier
• Second Stage is from the age of seven to the age of nine,
where mothers, are to train and direct their kids, but
without, punishment, and keep always enhancing self esteem,
but focus on the wrong, provide solutions and alternatives,
to help him/her to better themselves
• Third Stage is from the age of nine till adolescence,
where parents, can start criticizing and sometimes,
reprimanding or punishing, but what is relevant to the
action or mistake
• Forth Stage is from adolescence and up, where, friends and
outsiders, are more effective than mothers, and parents. In
this stage, parents, are to advice or consult, if children
asks for it. Mothers are not to judge or interfere, except
through a friendship spirit, without any kind of
embarrassing but dealing with minds, and on a maturity
level
NB
Your child, is God’s blessing to you, do not humiliate your
child, just give it a second though, if one day, you will
lose him/her, you will spend life time regretting and
lamenting. Deal with your child in humanity, do not
humiliate him and save his pride, for him/her to respect you
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