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Etiquette of Bringing up Kids
Who is my kid?
• Is he/she a personal belonging?
• Is he/she private property?
• Does he/she have to be similar or resembling parents?
• Does he/she a personal product (THING)?
• Are they created without personal human characteristic?
• Are they to be shaped upon parents’ WILL?
• Are they just dummies or human beings?
• Are they puppets in the hands of parents?
• Are they a rack where parents to hang on their hatred and
desperate?
• Are they there to be humiliated?
• Are they there to study only?
• Are they there to obey and follow without knowing why?
• Are they to be punished because they look like auntie or
uncle?
• Are they to pay for bringing them without financially
prepared?
• Are they to pay for losing our jobs or any economical
instability?
• Are they to pay for a new project start, or business
load?
• Are they to pay for parents’ psychological instability &
disturbance?
• Are they to pay for parents’ divorce?
• Are they to pay for a fight between one of the parents and
the boss?
• Are they to pay for the increase of prices?
• Are ???????????
Kids are ………………
• They are just extension and not a belonging
• They are an expand not a personal property
• They are different not similar nor resembling
• They are of a different human print and extremely
distinguished
• They are unique to God’s creation
• They are not tools nor things, they are flesh and blood
• They are having different human elements, of different
characteristics
• They are not puppets nor dummies, they are born matured
• They are not a product but they are a result
• They were empty and they are filled
• They are out coming of your in put
• They are just a cut and paste of your human behavioral
styles
• They are a mirror of your attitude and behavior
• They are a video camera, recording all your actions
• They are a recorded message, repeating your message
• They are of mixed genus and chromosomes upon parents’
factory
• They have a WILL to CHOOSE but not a WILL to BE
• You are behind their psychological disturbance and
instability
• They are a future plant, to your implanted behavioral and
ethical seed
• They are a bless from God
• Without them, you will never be MUM nor DAD
• They are to be saved not humiliated
• They are a pearl of a heart
How to Bring Kids up?
• Be a role model, they will imitate and copy
• Never criticize them in public
• Fish them doing something right
• Praise before you criticize
• Show Love and Forgiveness
• Bring up yourself, before bringing them up
• Make up your attitude and behavior before bringing them up
• They are not the reason behind your divorce, it is YOU
• They are not giving a bad mouthing to your boss about you
• They are not filling your Employee Assessment Form
• They are not a hidden factor behind price increase
• They are not the ones who decided to be your KID
• He is not the one who had chosen you as his/her parent
• Do not compare him/her with anybody, even himself
• Do not demonstrate authority, neither of money nor
position
• Do not blame him/her for a mistake, it is already done,
better solve
• Share with him opinions, do not be a dictator
• Do not punish him, for failure, but share all his success
stories
• Give your self time to discover him/her; sure they are
potential
• Demonstrate him flexibility, as for him to act with
flexibility
• Do not criticize to prove right or wrong, but provide
solutions
• Criticize him by pausing questions, to give him/her time
to elaborate
• Honor your word with him/her; promise the minimum and
achieve the maximum
• Do not tell a lie, be sure he will be always honest and
frank
• Do not use profanities, certainly, he/she will be polite
• Let him/her feel love and appreciation, consequently, they
will be happy and creative
• Listen carefully to him/her, they will show interest to
all your comments
• Respect their needs and wants, they will work with your
advice
• Let them participate all family plans, they will be your
future strategic planners
• Plan them fantastic outings, they will adore your
companionship
• If you value him/her; they will never devalue you; chain
reaction
• Believe that you are his/her Gate to Life
• You are his/her only source of knowledge and information;
so do not be false, and try to be a true one
• If he/she is discouraging, so you are his discouraging
source
• Be a remarkable page in his Life History
• Leave a positive human print in his/her life
• Recognize his abilities and capabilities, and work on
enhancing them
• Do not focus on his disabilities as it is a swift moral
killer
• Build human bridge and keep rapport with him/her; they are
useful in your adulthood
• Your kid, is your contingency future plan, of what you
were not able to achieve; but not your doublers/duplicates
• Capsulate and brief up your life experience, he/she is a
continuity, they do not have to repeat the same passage,
cause of lack of information
• Let him/her live not only survive, by adding life to year,
not only years to life
• Role them a model of a tactful life fighter, for them to
have endless hopes, not hopeless ends
• Be for them an ideal figure of how to do right things, not
things right
• Show them, how to be them SELVES not for them to show
their ELVES
Show them that Life is a Coffee, not a Cup of Coffee
Ghada Salah Gomaa
Business Etiquette & Protocol Consultant
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