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Etiquette of Ms/Mr. Manners
Introduction
Is Etiquette a subject and science for ladies only? Sure it
is not. It is for all human beings. It is a human science,
no matter of gender, age, religion or nationality. It is a
human science, addressing people to behave in a relevant
level to meet humanity expectations and needs.
Ms Manners please ………. Get to know that…….
• A lady is never heard nor touched, she is only felt and
smelt. Her presence is felt, not physically felt, and
smelt, but not to be over perfumed, but to be clean and
tidy
• For a lady, top of elegance is in the top of simplicity,
so do not be over accessorized, as this reflect, how
shallow you are
• Giggling is a taboo, if you feel like laughing, laugh
sincerely and honestly, but giggling arouses the temper of
your people around, and you come under their skin.
• Gossiping is a behavioral deformity and weakness, speak,
if needed, minimize your talk. Do not give a bad mouthing
about others. Listen not only hear, when speaking, be
precise, persuasive, positive and powerful. Being chatty,
pushes you to the gap of gossiping.
• Take two, before you talk and act. Just give your self a
chance to think of all the WH-Questions, before you act or
talk.
• Walk and keep your shoulders up, chin parallel to the
ground, knees stretched, legs closed, waste up, add bonus
to your step, avoid scratching foot to the ground, this
reflect a Lady Diana style of posture
• When greeting, stand up, for man and women, old and young,
as if you do not rise to the situation, you will sink with
it
• Adjust your voice volume, upon the place and number of
people you are addressing, too high, is too vulgar, and too
low is irritating
• Function a positive and chest voice tone and pitches,
inhale, and fill your lungs, then speak while exhaling, as
to function your respiratory system with the vocal chords
• Avoid vocal pauses and nods “Ah… Yh ….. Un…… Fine ….. Ok
….. Oki Doki etc
• Avoid slang, sloppy language and swear, as it weakens your
conversation, and your audience lose interest
• Compose your body language and facial gestures, but do not
be like a robot
• Avoid at the work place wearing sandals and flat shoes,
wear classical shoes, with hosieries, in Winter, it has to
mix and match with the outfit, and in Summer, it has to be
tan color with any outfit
• Take care of polishing your shoes and keeping it well
maintained, and no running in your hosieries; briefly be
impeccably groomed
• Never scream nor shout, compose your anger, and avoid any
impulsive reactions
• Keep business talk in business, and personal talk is
personal, do not mix papers, talks, in places
• Avoid using profanities, actions counts not intentions
• Do not outshine your master at home, you are the Queen,
but respect the King
• Speak and present your ideas in a logical sequence and be
open to opponents and other ideas
Mr. Manners … If you want your lady to be Ms Manners …
Please follow:
• Avoid emotional manipulation
• Put your self in her shoes, as to be able to empathize not
enough to sympathize
• Honesty is the only Tool to implement domestic security
• Sharing is the Know How; for your lady, to apply; upon
your needed and expected standards
• Coach and train your lady softly and gently
• Do not criticize your lady in public
• Never to blame her, without making a moment of discovery
with your self, as sure every thing is a chain reaction
• Keep her secrets, as for her to keep yours
• Why not for you to act, and give her the credit of success
• Do not belittle her
• Try to second her word
• Enhance her self esteem
• Build with her an ongoing human rapport
• Speak love, not enough to act to prove love
• Delegate responsibilities to your lady, as this reflects
trust
• Be generous in showing emotions, love and care, reveal and
do not conceal, this adds you power and never weaken you
• Speak your worries and pains to your ladies, do not act as
a super man
• Take care of your appearance, weight, and be also
impeccably groomed, as if your want her a lady style, you
have to be a gentleman style, no tummy, and shave daily,
even on your weekend, please do it for her
• If you want your lady to be your Queen, let her feel, that
your are her King, a King, is doing the Right Thing not
Things Right
• Compose your words, and do not humiliate neither your
lady, nor any body
• Speak in a manly voice tone, pitches and volume, so this
does not mean, that you do have to be a hooligan
• Be your ladies, tutor, so this needs tolerance and
patience, and never compare her with any other lady
• Mr. Manners, security is manhood action, be source of
stability and security and never betray
• To be courageous and brave, needs from you to act in a
civilized manner, not in a barbarous behavior
• Be a role model for elegance and fineness, sure
consequently you will get then a lady style Ms Manners
• Promise the minimum and achieve the maximum
• Keep her posted with all your hidden agenda, and unseen
scenarios, let your lady feel, that she is a real partner
• Do not forget to cuddle and pamper your lady Barbie
To be Ms and Mr. Manners, is an easy mission, but if there
is a Will there is a Way. Create the Will to Find the Way.
Ghada Salah Gomaa
Business Etiquette & Protocol Consultant
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